Breaking The Chains Of Addiction
Attitudes That Keep You Prisoner
Enabling-Codependency
Is enabling and codependency the same thing?
Codependency occurs when another individual, usually the addict's spouse or family member, is controlled by the addict's addictive behavior. ... Enabling behavior occurs when another person, often a codependent, helps or encourages the addict to continue using drugs, either directly or indirectly.
Enabling:
There’s a big difference between helping and enabling someone. Helping is doing something for someone that they are not capable of doing for themselves. Enabling is doing something for someone that they can and should be doing for themselves.
But how do you determine whether you are helping someone or enabling them?
The Bible says a person reaps what he sows (Galatians 6:7). A bad choice almost always leads to a bad consequence. When we want what’s best for someone, we’ll help them avoid bad choices, but that’s not the same as taking away the consequences.
One of the best examples of the difference is the story of the prodigal son in Luke 15:11-32. When the son demanded his share of the inheritance so he could live the way he chose, it was painful for the father to give him the money and let him go his own way. But the father was willing to fight through his own pain and let his son go. Eventually, the son hit rock bottom and realized he was wrong. He did come home, and the father welcomed him back with open arms. The father never stopped caring, but he was willing to let God discipline the son’s rebelliousness in His own way. Stop enabling and start loving!
Codependency:
A codependent person is one who has let another person's behavior affect him or her, and who is obsessed with controlling that person's behavior.
We cannot change someone else. Only God can change a person's heart. If you truly want to help your loved one, you need to let go and turn them over to God, and place your trust in him.
Stop controlling and start trusting!
If you identified the negative attitude of Co-Dependence on your DMI today, take some time to complete this devotional. Read each passage beginning with (Galatians 6: 7).
Meditate on this verse (s). Continue with the next passage until all passages are completed. It is imperative that you allow the Holy Spirit to confront us with our sinful attitudes and character flaws, and that we take responsibility for our behavior without making excuses. This requires looking honestly at the intentions of our hearts if we are to allow God to work in these areas. Ask the Lord to reveal the truth behind these attitudes. Our hearts are deceitful and we will try to hide the true reasons behind these behaviors. Be sure to write down any revelations of the Holy Spirit, especially where they come from.
Meditate on this verse (s). Continue with the next passage until all passages are completed. It is imperative that you allow the Holy Spirit to confront us with our sinful attitudes and character flaws, and that we take responsibility for our behavior without making excuses. This requires looking honestly at the intentions of our hearts if we are to allow God to work in these areas. Ask the Lord to reveal the truth behind these attitudes. Our hearts are deceitful and we will try to hide the true reasons behind these behaviors. Be sure to write down any revelations of the Holy Spirit, especially where they come from.