"Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her. "
Ephesians 5:25
A PROTECTIVE COATING
Read It: 1 Corinthians 7:34-35
Listen, just give me three more months. In three months, I'll have this behind me, and things will get back to normal at work." I wonder how many wives have heard this or something similar from their husbands when they try to let him know they need more of his time and attention. What often happens is that the three extra months come and go with no change. Or the project gets finished, but the husband gets focused on something thing else just as demanding. See, a man is built so that if he's excited about something, he's going to need those extra three months. Then it's six months. The result is that he's always putting off getting to his wife's needs, and in the meantime her spirit forms a protective coating. She doesn't want to be let down again, so she provides her own protection. tection. What this does is produce an emotionally cold woman-and a husband who is clueless as to why. He says, "I work hard. I bring my money home. I'm not running around." And then the big one: "I'm doing all this for you."
But his wife didn't marry a business or a paycheck. She married a person. son. And there is absolutely nothing a husband can do to replace himself in her life, no matter what he gives her. That's why when many couples had nothing, they had everything because they had each other. Now they have everything, but they have nothing. Now once a woman's emotional shell gets hard, it's a whopper to soften. It would be a lot better if a husband could keep that shell from getting hard like that. Not only is that emotional protective coating hard to soften, very few men have the patience to do it. That's when men get attracted to other women and pursue adulterous affairs. But you know what? A warm flame can soften that hard shell. Husband, if you commit to start where you are and love your wife all over again, God will meet you in your commitment and rekindle the flame. Think About It An affair may seem attractive, but it is a sin and will pay its own consequences. Recommit yourself to faithfulness to your mate and watch love start to glow again.
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