"Many waters cannot quench love, nor will rivers overflow it. "
Song of Solomon 8:7a
WRONG DISTRACTION
Read It: 1 Corinthians 7:32-33 For Paul the benefit of singleness was undistracted devotion to the Lord (see v. 35). But don't misunderstand what the apostle is saying in today's verses. He's not saying single people are more devoted to Christ than married people. What he's saying is that if you are married, you have a distraction-a wonderful distraction but a distraction nonetheless. But that's okay because you are supposed to be distracted if you are married. By that Paul means you are supposed to be concerned about pleasing your spouse. It comes with the marriage license, and there's nothing ing wrong with it. In fact, one of the things that will douse the flame of a marriage in a hurry is that one party stops trying to please the other and focuses totally on pleasing self. The great-problem-of marital breakup is selfishness. The problem with selfishness is that selfish people don't want to lose. They want to win. So whenever two people get married and then forget that they are supposed to be focused on pleasing each other, you've got a mess on your hands. A marriage will start to hurt when the partners are too distracted with their own wants and needs to meet each other's needs. When two selfish ish people lock up, someone is going to lose.
You cannot have two distractions tractions at work in a marriage and expect to build a winner. There are plenty of things in life to distract you. The question is, what are you going to allow to distract you? Let me show you what I mean. Men have a tendency to focus their energy and attention on their jobs. When that happens over a long period of time, a wife comes to resent her husband's job, viewing it almost like another woman vying for her husband's attention and emotional energy. As the lady sits at home feeling this way, this stuff accumulates in her emotional tional system, and the flame flickers. That's why it's a good idea for married ried people to take a periodic reading on what's occupying their time and energy. The answer can be the first step toward rekindling the marriage. Think About It Have you been giving too much attention to the wrong distraction lately? Make an extra effort to meet your mate's needs today.
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